Today’s post is a bit different from my prepping and food storage stash articles. In my heart I know women need women and girls need girls.To my male readers, I promise this post I am writing today is for a good reason. It’s about why we need to build strong neighborhoods today, not tomorrow. This can actually pertain to men as well, but in this article you will see why women need women and girls need girls.
Here’s the deal, I am seeing less direct personal interaction between people in most cases. Less face to face communication. The cute handwritten letters and cards that some people mailed via the post office and were treasured by those receiving them seem to be pretty much a thing of the past.
Women Saving Special Cards:
We can send an electronic card for birthdays, special occasions, holidays and thank you’s. Can you just imagine our great-great grandmothers ever picture doing this, of course not. But it is funny because I know some people save those old cards with words of love expressed and are now tucked ever so carefully in a beautiful box. Or maybe a shoe box. I am not very sentimental, I know I should be. But I throw them out. Yikes. I can hear some of you saying “how can she throw them out?”
I know I hear we need something we can read later if something happens to our friends or loved ones. Well, I don’t, I mean I really don’t. I have great visual memories of family and friends. Besides, those notes will just have to be trashed after I die. My daughters and grand kids would not want them. What are they going to do with them? You are either flabbergasted or giggling right now.
I remember in high school I took a Calligraphy class. Oh, I could hardly wait to get my hands on the jar of ink and that dip pen and brushes. Oh, the creativeness just came out of me like water flowing from a stream. Can you picture those beautiful letters or invitations we made years ago? Beautiful works of art. Yes, I inserted those handwritten letters or cards in an envelope and mailed them with a postage stamp. I know my grand kids love getting something in the mail. It doesn’t have to be a gift, they love a note from grandma. Yes, I text with my grand kids and I Face time with them. But face to face is the best.
Women Now Text:
Well, now we have texting, Facebook or Twitter to say “Happy Birthday Uncle Charlie, I hope you have a great day, I love you so much!” I guess that’s the trend the last 5-10 years. If I go out to dinner I look around the restaurant to see if people are talking to each other. Most of the time they are not talking. They are looking at their phones. They may have electronic devices on their laps, a tablet on the table or phones beeping from their purses. Of course not always, but the next time you go out to dinner, look around. You might start to laugh because I just might be right. Listen, I get it. Texting is not going to go away and either will social media options. Social media will change and something new will come out and we will all use that new social media form, more than likely. Sometimes people just check the “like” on Facebook as if to say, congratulations, or Happy Anniversary! Someone clicks “like” if someone is losing weight or at Disneyland.
I really do love seeing what my friends and family members are doing on social media. We all live so far away from each other and it’s great to be in the know. Sometimes I get those Christmas letters, I LOVE THEM, because they keep me posted on what’s going on in families in a short newsletter. Oh, and I don’t send Christmas cards much anymore, but I love getting them. I decided I had to simplify my life in that area. Besides, I kept thinking I wanted to lose weight for the picture. Yep, I am still working on that one.
Women Work From Home:
More and more women are working from home to save money on daycare, or they are self-employed or whatever. My point is, unless those women go out to lunch or talk on the phone its a lonely life, sometimes. Maybe not for some, but I see more and more lonely women sitting home for different reasons. If you work from home it’s hard sometimes to stop working. Something will pop in your head that you need to send that email right now because you should have sent it two hours ago.
It’s different in an office where you see people all day, whether it is staff or clients. Working at home like I do, has it’s perks. I can work in my jammies until noon and no one knows, unless they knock on my front door. I do miss the work friends, but not the dressy suits, jewelry and perfume. I do miss the occasional lunches, but most of the time my jobs were so demanding I ate lunch everyday at my desk. That was my life.
Women And Shopping:
Nowadays, many people order their clothes or gifts online. We sometimes lose the interaction with sales clerks at stores because we just shop via the internet. Stores are closing because of the lack of sales. I remember when I was working outside my home I would see a sales clerk at a certain store and they would act like they knew my name when I walked in the store. Of course, they didn’t but they made me feel like I was the most important person in the store. I miss that interaction, I really do.
Women With Small Children:
I also realize how fun it is to be a young mother living where other young mothers live. I can still remember sitting on blankets outside of our home eating peanut butter and jelly sandwiches with other mothers and their kids. You know, face to face and laughing, in person. Oh yes, we had juice spilling everywhere or the popsicle drips on the kid’s clothes. I miss those drips and the sticky hands. It’s all about the memories for me, what about you?
Trips to parks are awesome because mothers can interact with other mothers face to face. The kids can play with other kids, not just siblings. It’s critical for kids to know how to interact with kids their own age. They can laugh, run and talk face to face. No electronics, actually talking and learning to listen to others. They learn manners interacting and it teaches them to respect others. It also teaches them to respect adults.
I remember when my girls were so little and people would say “enjoy them now, because they grow up way too fast.” I didn’t get it at the time, but I do now. Enjoy those precious moments, young mothers. Clean your house after they grow up and move out. I love my grand kids fingerprints everywhere. I call them love spots.
When Women Retire:
This is hard because I remember thinking I can’t wait until my kids grow up. I can’t wait until they marry someone awesome. I can’t wait until I have grand kids. I can’t wait until I retire. Yes, I love being retired, don’t get me wrong. But people don’t always have the same ideas about retirement. I think we all work and work all those years and then we plan the day we will call it quits in the working world. Of course, we plan financially for that day. The day comes and you have that retirement party, and BAM you are RETIRED.
I thought my husband and I would travel and drive all over the United States seeing the USA! Well, my husband wants to golf, plus he loves doing his civic club activities like the last 25 years. He has strong ties to his faith/church so that will never end. We are lucky we have our health right now so we can do just about anything which is good. Some have not been so lucky.
We have friends who have lost their spouses. This is why I am writing this post today. I visit so many people who are lonely. They tell me they are lonely and want to do something. They feel awkward going to group activities because they are single now. They are single because of the death of their loved one or because of divorce.
Luncheon For Women:
Here’s the deal, I decided about a year ago to invite single people over once a month and I would fix them dinner with my homemade bread or rolls. The reason I wanted to do it was to get people out of their houses and talk and laugh together. Women getting together face to face improves their health and overall well-being. Women are happier if they have someone to talk with, laugh or giggle with. In the beginning it might be hard for them to get together with other women because they are out of the habit of talking face to face with other women. This might sound weird, but it’s the truth.
When going to a movie there is no talking face to face. Yes, we talk in the car while driving to the movie place, but its not long enough, in my opinion. So many activities do not include talking. I have been to park activities like pancake breakfasts and people talk to each other. Dinners up the canyon where people interact face to face.
In the olden days people would have porches so they could have neighbors come visit and folks would sit and talk on the porch. Or there was a hangout where people would meet for breakfast. We need to bring the idea of a community back into our lives. I have neighbors who stop at the mailbox out front and we love to talk. I also have some neighbors that are too busy to talk to anyone.
Challenge For Women:
As I’ve read through this post I felt something was missing from the message I hoped to pass on to my reader friends. As I’ve thought about it I realized that one thing that makes women unique is their desire to share ideas and feelings that only a women can understand. Whether it’s when I’m talking to a neighbor, my sister or one of my daughters, we can carry on a conversation for a long time sharing how we feel, what’s important to us today, our recent shopping trip, what’s for dinner, a quilt in progress, a funny movie we saw or a book we read. All these things are important to us and make us feel warm, important, content, loved and appreciated. That is why it is so important that we women do all we can to generate opportunities to talk together, share experiences and simply spend time doing things that women love to do.
If you have time, ask a neighbor or two over for dinner. It can be once a month or every week. Just think of the joy you will bring to that person or couple. If you are already doing this, kudos to you. That is awesome. Life is good when we laugh or giggle. Let me know if you have a tradition that brings people together, my readers would love to hear about what you are doing with others. I would love to share it. Remember women need women and girls need girls. Blessings, Linda